Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Compare and contrast

James at 23 months: Conducts Firebird with rapt concentration as he hits the beats and sways dramatically to the music. Once it’s over he pauses, turns to me, and states unblinkingly, “Do aDAIN.”

Owen at 23 months: Takes the cushion off of the chair, turning it into his own personal trampoline, bouncing with a ridiculous smile on his face, left hand clutching his prized green ball, as Short Ride in a Fast Machine plays in the background. Once it’s over he keeps jumping, shouting, “Moe! MOE! I wan’ MOE!!!!”

James at 23 months: Tries putting his feet on the pedals of his trike once, then quickly gives up and makes his parents push him around for the next year.

Owen at 23 months: Tries putting his feet on the pedals of his trike once, and persists to the exclusion of any help. Pushes his parents’ hands away so he can keep practicing, unless he tips over and gets stuck under the wheels. Whenever he manages to get somewhere (usually when aimed downhill) he shouts “yaaaaayyyyy!!!!”

James at 23 months: Sits and listens to books for, literally, hours if you’d let him. Wants to read the original Curious George books and knows and says his letters and colors.

Owen at 23 months: Will “sit” for a book or two, but usually only if they involve pop-ups or animal sounds. Gets bored with any kind of real story book unless it’s less than two minutes long or Elephant and Piggie. If you show him letters he invariably responds “Eeeeee!!!!” and if you ask him what color it’s “Geeeeen!!!!” Always with exclamation points.

James at 23 months: Will give an obligatory hug at bedtime, but rarely initiates physical affection for humans. Needs a ginky, George, and Steven to go to sleep.

Owen at 23 months: Hugs. Hugs for Mommy, hugs for Daddy, hugs for ALL of the babies. Hugs to the greeters at church and the nursery workers. No wonder this kid gets sick more than his older brother. Requires nothing but his own two fingers and an earlobe to sleep.


Here’s a really horrible thing. I know I’ve read a couple of books between A Prayer for Owen Meany and Water for Elephants. But I can’t remember, and I apparently can’t look it up on my online library account. Sniff. If I can come up with one or more I’ll be sure to insert. Roy and I have been doing a lot of crosswords at night…but STILL. I know I’m missing a couple…

Book 57: A Prayer for Owen Meany. The longest read of 2016 so far. A curious tale about a modern-day Messiah veiled in humor, irony, and tragedy. I laughed at times and other times I kept on keeping on. Owen Meany is quite the literary character, I will say that. This is one of those books that I guess I’m glad I finished, but would probably be much more interesting as a book-club read, where there could be discussion and analysis following.

Book 58: Boy Erased: A memoir of a young man, raised in a Missionary Baptist home, who comes out to his family and is sent to “ex gay therapy.” I could probably write an entire blog about this book if I wanted to be controversial, but suffice it to say, he did not have a good experience and ended up choosing to embrace the homosexual lifestyle. Knowing this before I even turned the first page I assumed the critiques of the Christian community would be scathing, and they were. But even if you read past the obvious anger and mistrust of the author towards Christianity, it would appear that this young man was, indeed, abused, misled, and unloved by those who were claiming “healing through Christ.” Disturbing at a number of levels.

Book 59: The Guernsey Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society. The most delightful read of 2016 thus far. I passed it onto Roy immediately and highly recommend, particularly if you love historical fiction that involves letter-writing, British humor, and whimsy. (IE, all of the people who read this blog.)



Tuesday, October 18, 2016

P.S.

I've just started a new book comprised of written correspondence that always ends with a PS. So in the spirit of that...

In re-reading my last post I think I sound like a bit of a wimp. Reading, a nap, an early bedtime?! So for clarification: fourth day in a row without Roy. And what is Monday to the rest of the world is Saturday to me. I work Wednesday-Sunday. So I'm just reminding myself that it was OK to be tired. And not justifying it to any form of readership in the least...

Good night!

Fourth Day Without Daddy

7:15 AM: “Mahmmy! Mah-mmy!” It looks and feels like it’s gotta be 5:30. But no. Time to start another day! Two more days without Roy. Three down, two to go. You can do this! “Good morning Owen!” “Mahmmy!!!” Let’s go get James up!

James, curled up in a ball, “Hi Mommy. I’m a little wet. Guess I just need’a splash off in the tub. NO PENISES!”

A quick feel around his bed proves that “little wet” was a grave understatement. James, and his bed, are positively soaked through.

So much for the pep talk.

8:00 AM: I decided to make pancakes for the boys. They love them and it means I’ll have lots of leftovers for tomorrow. This recipe is the BOMB for letting me justify pancakes for the family. Out of a double batch James eats 4, Owen eats 3, and I have 2 with an egg. (Does anybody else make a fried egg and chop it all up/mix with their pancakes? Drizzle a little syrup and it’s SO good.

8:20AM: The boys, adequately fed, disappear. FOR AN HOUR. This is miraculous and amazing. I do the dishes and settle in on the couch with A Prayer for Owen Meany, my gigantic task of a read. I’m so close to finishing!

9:20AM: Is it possible that the boys are still upstairs and I am still on the couch reading? Still not finished the book, but maybe later today… Coffee makes its first appearance.

9:30AM: I start thinking about the kitchen. This happens when I have had coffee and am left to my own devices for too long. I realize I have every ingredient on hand to make the butternut squash gratin from a DNI last fall. I can make it now and just pop it in the oven 20 minutes before suppertime. Heck yes.

9:45AM: Owen finds his way into the kitchen, sees that I’m hard at work, and immediately drags in a chair so he can “help”. (Owen helping is really just Owen dropping dishes into the sink or Owen trying to grab sharp knives.) I attempt to keep him safely busy with menial tasks, but ultimately have to provide some boundaries. And then re-provide. And RE-provide. And then when I pick him up off the chair because he’s too content to ignore me he shouts “NO!” and sinks his sharp little fangs into my pants. Monday Corner #1.

10:15AM: James is bored and annoying Owen, who is bored and annoying James. I am wrapping up my casserole and have promised outside time once I’m done. Just before I sprinkle the gratin with homemade shallot crumbs I hear a yelp and cries. Owen has bitten James on the arm hard enough that skin is gone and I can see each individual tooth mark. Monday Corner #2.

10:20AM: Owen tells James that he’s sorry. I encourage James to respond, “it’s OK Owen.” James looks at me and whispers, “But it’s NOT OK.” Which is completely correct.

10:30AM: Shoes are on, contacts are in, dump trucks are located. We head outside. It was damp this morning and I warn James that he may not want to bring his menagerie of plush friends outside unless he is fine with them getting a little wet. He ignores me and heads outside. 3 minutes later he is shrieking and wailing because the butt of Jack the stuffed dog got wet. Owen is content to push his dump truck around. I convince James that his dog will live, metaphorically speaking, and, no, I’m not packing us all up to go put him in the dryer. He can wait until we are ready to come inside.

11:00AM: The boys have settled down. I FINISH OWEN MEANY! I am so excited that I tell James this happy news. I show him the 627 dense pages of small font that I persisted in completing. “Now I can finally take this book back to the library James!” He looks at me incredulously, puzzled. “So you’re only going to read it ONE TIME???”

James, who rereads everything until it is completely committed to memory, is not impressed.

11:45AM: We head inside for lunch. I make PB&J for the boys (SB&J for Owen) and warm up curried chicken and apple soup for me. Attempting to replicate the amazing Wegmans soup—this is not as bright or sweet, but it is very good just the same.

12:10PM: We sit down to lunch. James is ravenous, despite eating half a batch of pancakes this morning. Owen eats his peas and smashes the bread.

12:35PM Owen is making his pooping face at the table, but it turns out he is just listening uber-intently to “Let It Go” from his kitchen chair. (Thanks to niece Abby for introducing him. Idina, you’ve captured another soul.) Still, it’s nice to listen to something other than “Life Is A Highway”.

James is complaining about not wanting to go alone to check on the state of his dumb DAMP dog “Jack” (Thanks to niece Abby for introducing him.) in the dryer. I’ve assured him I’ll go as soon as the washer is done, but "that’s not soon enough!"

I’m pretty sure that somewhere between 12:35-1PM Owen ended up in the corner again. At least once.

1PM: Owen goes behind bars down for a nap. James and I do kindergarten. He has learned to love school and I love it too, most of the time. But my patience is thinned from exhaustion and his focus has been thinned by the biting. We agree to some space at 1:30 and he retreats to his bedroom with an armload of books to memorize.

1:45PM: I fall asleep.

2:45PM: Owen is awake. James is too, obviously. I get awake so I can get them up and put on their shoes to rescue the two kids we pick up from school on Monday afternoons.

3:15-4:15PM: Teach lessons while Elmo babysits the kids. I feel badly about this, but my options are few.

4:15PM: Go back outside until dinner time. We go to the playground, which is overrun with YMCA after-school kids. They are loud and busy. James the kindergartener hates it. Owen the not-quite 2 year old loves it, until a 4th grade girl screams at him for touching a small bouquet of flowers she left on a park bench. She really let him have it, apparently doing a better job of teaching him a lesson than anything I’ve used to keep him from biting. Owen buries his head in my shoulder, sobbing, as she berates him repeatedly for “should have knowing better.” I, to my credit, refrain from chewing the 4th grader’s head off and feeding it to crocodiles.

5PM: James has had enough extroverting for the week and we head home for supper. Owen happily eats as much squash gratin as I do and James pukes it up twice onto his plate. I suppose that’s what you call a mixed bag.

6PM: Our Jesus Storybook Bible is about Jonah and the Big Fish. This leads to a LOT of questions about large-fish anatomy. It’s been a long time since that I dissected that sturgeon in biology. I wasn’t much help, but you know what was? You’re right: YOUTUBE. I just had to make sure we didn’t end up watching graphic shark-attack footage. (Easier said than done, you bloodthirsty culture!) Shark videos led to watching the second half of The Jungle Book, which is a great movie. Tigers, elephants, and man cubs, oh my!

7:30PM: BEDTIME! James and I make a pact for the following day: he will be a better listener and I will be more patient. We shake like real men to seal the deal.

8PM: I do the dishes, mock-straighten the livingroom, and collapse into bed. Day one of Daddy’s trip gone, one more to go.


I have lots of books to update on the blog, but I am too tired to type them out. Like I’ve been too tired to type up the October DNI. Let’s get Roy home and I’ll see what I can do about getting everything up to date.

Saturday, October 8, 2016

A Rant and Photos

Warning: what you are about to read is political in nature. But if you endure and hang with me you will be rewarded with photos of adorable kids doing brilliant things.

Much of the political fiasco of the past 12 months has rolled off my back. I keep my head down and the television off. 99% of what I see on Facebook is steeped in misinformed ignorance. I haven’t the patience to wade through it or say anything publicly for the inevitable tidal wave of backlash. Let’s be honest: Facebook is just a public forum to rant. It doesn’t change anyone’s mind.

But even with my eyes aimed at the ground I’ve been unable to completely avoid the muck and mire presidential candidates have spewed forth. And, seemingly, none of it has any staying power. Apparently our country has gotten to the point where nothing matters anymore. (This is why you have no reason to post anything political on Facebook.) But the past two days…I’ve been stewing. The words I’ve heard this weekend cause me new levels of great concern.

It’s not so much over Mr. Trump’s misogynistic, perverted comments. Anybody with 2 cents worth of anything knows he’s an egotistical narcissist. It baffles me that anybody could be convinced that he had their best interests at heart. (I’m not sure he has one.) No, what concerns me is this…

Mr. Trump’s vile, criminal statements demand swift response from those who would call themselves followers of Jesus Christ. Let me be clear. It makes my blood boil to see so many evangelical leaders in this country completely silent or, unbelievably, defending Mr. Trump at any level. Or, worse, to immediately trot out something that sullies his opponent in a pathetic attempt to equalize/justify his reprehensible behaviors.

Those who would cry out on behalf of the unborn or the institution of marriage have fallen silent when it comes to defending the cause of WOMEN. Mr. Trump has made me more of a feminist through his words and actions in the past week than any liberal in my lifetime. And while I refuse to enter into any form of petty debate on Facebook, I fear that if I remain silent entirely I fall into the same category as those I denounce in the preceding paragraph.

I grew up in the evangelical church. I am, essentially, a product of Focus on the Family. Largely, that was a good thing. I am still working out my faith as an adult, of course, but I am so thankful for the values and consistency an evangelical upbringing gave me. And I understand that not every leader in the evangelical church is supporting Mr. Trump. But even one is too many, and it’s far, far more than one. Those who defend this politician abandon me and thousands of other women who trusted in them and were discipled through their books, magazines, radio programs, blogs, and conferences.

I will not be voting for Donald Trump and I cannot fathom a logical scenario in which you could convince me otherwise. I don’t know WHO I will vote for at this moment actually (but I will be voting, and so should you!). But the greater hurt and damage to me are the actions of those who have told me that they will love their neighbors as themselves, will seek first the kingdom of God, will pick up their crosses, will defend the cause of the poor and widowed, will do unto others, will honor their wives, and will run with endurance the race set before them. Whose race are you really running and who, exactly, are you defending?

A dear friend reminded me today, letting her actions speak louder than her words, that prayer is our most powerful tool. So tonight I seek to lift up those who offend and anger me, as well as my country. There is some peace in knowing that our prayers are more effective than our single vote!


And with that, I leave you with adorable pictures of my dear sons, whose laughter and joy bring me hope in the midst of aforementioned blood boilage. :)

James is doing a lot better at gymnastics. But I got a real kick out of watching him distractedly wander out of line and into this hidey hole. And then I laughed out loud as Coach Paul dragged him out by his ankles.
This kid is incredibly handsome. And almost two!
He also had his first "PB&J" thanks to sunflower butter from Aldi. It's our new favorite.
This incredibly handsome kid is READING. Oliver Pig, Dr. Seuss, the Berenstein Bears, and Curious George stand no match for the incredibly-focused Mighty James.
This is Mighty James' superhero outfit, btw. Or at least, that's what he told me this morning. (The boots are on the wrong feet.)
We've had a generous allotment of Elmo and George this week, thanks to an encore appearance of Hand, Foot, and Mouth for Sir Owen.
While James tolerates gymnastics, Owen is positively ACHING to get on the floor. (Look, there's even a dog at the gym!)
Saw this at a used book store today. Imma just leave it here...
...cause this has been my thought life the past two days.